What is positive parenting?
Take a not unusual situation. Your two children are fighting over a particular issue.Positive parenting begins with surrender and neutrality, so a large part of the answer is to first see the fight as an opportunity for you to practice “surrender in the midst of chaos.” Every fight and every squabble are mini teachers for you to learn to be a true and strong middle ground. So don’t say to yourself: “Oh no, they are at it again!” Instead, embrace the fight. See it as a chance for you to become more solid, more capable, and more instrumental as a parent. See it as a welcome invitation to practice all your positive parenting skills.
The fight is not a problem unless you make it one. In fact, try not to even call it a fight. Perhaps you could call it a “parenting skills enhancer.” Switch the label in your mind. Positive parenting begins in you. This positive outlook is where your actions must flow from.